Serendipitous Events by Julia and BG Krause Photography Beauty Boudoir Styled Shoot

There is power is selling a message “Beauty comes in all packages.” But what is happening is there is still a huge gap between what is sexy.  You have both extremes but no in-between. It makes me horrifically sad. Sexy to me is internal.. We all have an ability to feel good and celebrate who we are, but we just are not getting the message across to positively to affect our young ladies who are absolutely affected by our body image.   
 
Women have grown stronger in our abilities and our capabilities, but we as a whole, still compete for beauty. As if we exist in a beauty pageant that is social and societal. It is shameful that even after such a wonderful ad comes out to celebrate plus size women, the women who aren’t as curvaceous feel demeaned or belittled for being smaller, not necessarily skinny but smaller than the ad. They also slam the ad our of their own defensiveness for not being that person that ad shows. Basically the message isn’t coming across as it should. Here are some of the responses…
“Where’s the “skinny” girl. If this is about loving your body I would see a girl my size in there but in this case they’re specifically single out a certain size of women. This is true body shamming”
“hahahaha I LOOK SKINNY WITH NO EFFORT i eat all time but i don’t get fat , like i stay skinny my weight is : 106 pounds…”
“I think that I’ll stay with my 8 size, thank you. Obesity is not really healthy.”
Is this a dig against Victoria’s Secret? They act as if #ImNoAngel isn’t, but sadly I think people will see that it is. The ad needs be shown with EVERY SIZE in body, boob, butt, etc. Not just one. That is the problem with the Victoria Secret ad as well.
I want to show every size and every shape is this photo shoot and address the complete body image, not just the extremes. 
 
If you have a moment, please write a little bit, from your heart, about what you think is beautiful, do you think you are beautiful?….. 
 
 
Here is my most recent thoughts:
 
What is beautiful? After the most recent years of watching women of every race, size, color, shape grace the covers of magazines, I feel I can finally say safely that beautiful is everyone and everywhere.  I have only really been able to say that about myself within the past few years though, because I was never made to feel beautiful. I was the outcast for a very long time.. different in every single way. To tall, too skinny, too dark, too light…I never could really seem to fit in nor match what was considered beautiful. It took it’s toll on my self esteem and body image until I was the only one in our school approached at our High School Graduation from the owner of LA Models. That still didn’t speak to me, it merely told me for a second that I wasn’t the “ugly or unattractive” person I thought I was. Many years and many photographs later I realized that my being different was unique enough to take me out of one box and into another. Now I was chastised for being 5’8 3/4″ and a size 2. There was just no pleasing anyone, including my size 12 Mom who celebrated her beauty, body and looks everyday. I never quite picked up on her confidence and believe me, through my tears every single day, I wish I would have. My oldest niece is naturally beautiful. She has all of the appealing features and has since she was a newborn. She told me recently that her poor body image has to do with what her Mother, myself and one of our closest friends have said about ourselves. Our horrible body image has cause a negative reflection in her sense of beauty. My jaw hit the floor and is still dragging in shame. If for no other reason, I want to continue to project the need to make sure that all women feel beautiful and that it is attainable. Beauty is defined within us, not within society. I want to bridge the gap between the extremes and let every single women know she is sexy and beautiful. That is one of the many gifts I want to give to promote that beauty really does come in all packages. Celebrate beauty, period. Thank you to all of these gorgeous models and everyone involved in making this exactly what I envisioned.
Photography: BG Krause Photography, C. Costello Photography and G. Moussi Photography
MUA and Hair Stylists: Mayra Gomez, and Maria Carillo of EI Makeup School
Styled by: Julia D. Whitley of Serendipitous Events by Julia 

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Julia Photo Shoot 1

Julia Photo Shoot 1

Remember when y…

Remember when you go into the world to
keep your eyes and ears wide open.
And be kind. Love one another.
Take care of each other.
Tell the truth. Always do your best.
Listen to the big people and the little people.
Explore new paths and have fun.
Know that you are loved like crazy.
Give thanks for all your blessings.
Above all else, love and you will do wonderful things in this world.. – Rebecca Puig

A tremendous thank you to ALL of the newcomers and members of the NAPW Long Beach Chapter that attended our meeting and Dinner last night at Cafe Piccolo.. 

Janet sent me this message and I believe it describes the evening so well….

“Loved the meeting, the energy and the “event” you put together. Thank you for sharing your beautiful soul and love with us. I loved breaking bread with you all and conversing. The effort you put into it is appreciated and has definitely gone off to fuel other positive outcomes. I will surely be back next month!”

Working together and remaining professional

I have hesitated for a week to write this post because I didn’t think anyone would really be interested in reading it and mainly because I would think that common sense would apply and there is no need to express the following.
I am in the event business because I truly love what I do. I hear many coordinators/planners and other extremely talented vendors say the same. However, last week I had a couple of experiences that make me question whether or not these individuals truly love their chosen career. Whether the event is a wedding where the pressures are often the highest, or a corporate function where there is still a top level of professionalism expected, I would assume that many of us have come to the understanding that this is a job not for the lazy, nor physically weak. This is a job where pride of the individual has no place, but seems to rain on many.
In order for an event of any kind to be successful, there has to be effective communication and especially collaboration. Competition is not welcome and should be left for only for reality shows and sports. I am never looking for the complement, I am only looking to do my job well so that the client is not just pleased, but that they refer my services and hopefully contact me again for a future project.
I was told from a venue “Julia, don’t make me hate you Sunday morning.” I was appauled and then within moments realized that she probably had a terrible experience with a so-called wedding coordinator. I tried not to take it personally knowing that she had not worked with me in the past and didn’t know that I would assist in the kitchen if I was needed. Unfortunately the tumultuous relationship did not end at that conversation. The day of the wedding, when things were not going right with the venue, everything was being blamed on me. This is an area that boils my blood as even in childhood I learned that blame is a lazy and often pointed way of dealing with guilt. It is also incredibly unprofessional and a solution should always be in place, not just a finger pointing in someone else’s direction. Event planning is problem solving and doing so quickly in the midst of our timeline. I don’t have time to blame anyone else for something that goes wrong. Sadly, I will think twice about working with a bride that is getting married at this venue and quite frankly I will no longer refer anyone there.
I often wonder what it is that some planners do to keep their businesses flourishing. I hear so many boost at ABC meetings about the compliments they receive from clients. I love hearing about it because we are all working together to make what we do of value. Or at least I thought.
I was told several times that a client didn’t believe in me nor what I did because the only feedback they were getting from their recently married friend’s was
“Oh don’t trust your planner, mine didn’t even show up.”
“Planners are nightmares and they get paid to do nothing.”
“You hired a planner? Hmph, good luck.”

I was speechless, but still did my job as I always do and as I teach my Assistants to. Ultimately it is me that I have to look at everyday and market everyday. If I was to act in a manner that was so unprofessional that people continue to complain about me months after their event, I couldn’t continue to work in this industry. I am not going to get upset at these planners, but ask ever so nicely to consider another industry. The truth is, that it is those planners who choose to act accordingly that devalue this business and our services. Many people think a planner/coordinators job is easy and should be minimized to a minimum wage or possible just a couple hundred dollars. It isn’t until after their event that they say, “You are superman/superwoman.” “I didn’t think you could pull this off, but you have been working all day and all night to make this so perfect for us.”
When those positive and edifying compliments are given, it is imperative that the client know that I could never take credit for the success of any event. There are so many people involved in making something amazing happen, that it wouldn’t be fair. Every vendor involved makes their task shine and helps the collective group to make the client beem with joy. That is what it is all about. Truly, this business is the epitome of working together for the greater progress of everyone. The good that we do an one event continues to bring us business, and also makes us better.